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Life can be tough, but so are you!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Life with one or more chronic illnesses is tough.

Life with chronic pain is tough.

Life, whether you are chronically ill or not, is tough.

But I have news for you! You are tougher!!!!

Yes, that is right.  I know that there are times when you don’t feel tough.  I also know that there are days when you truly lack physical strength, but that doesn’t mean that you aren’t tough.

As long as you are fighting for your life, looking for ways to improve it, finding joy in every day, and not giving up, YOU ARE TOUGHER THAN YOUR ILLNESS OR CHRONIC PAIN!

I know that taking a nap may feel like your illness has won, but it isn’t true.  You win when you acknowledge that your body needs to rest.  It takes guts to do what your body demands of you, instead of forcing your body to follow your desires.  It takes immense strength to go to physical therapy, to keep trying new treatments, to change your lifestyle, to make healthier choices, and most importantly accept that all these things must be done in order for you to remain strong enough to survive.

Here are three  examples to help you build and maintain the emotional strength that is necessary for living with a chronic illness or pain.

*Disclosure: This post includes affiliate links. Meaning that at no additional cost to you, I receive a commission when you make a purchase through my links. The proceeds earned fund the giveaways I host in my Facebook groups.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Number One: Spend more time with people who lift you up and less with those who bring you down.

Those who constantly remind you of your limitations or are always bringing up your shortcomings, are only going to weaken you.  People who point out your strengths, help you find alternative ways to do things, or just cheer you on when you try something new will build your confidence.  Who are you spending most of your time talking to?

My life isn’t filled with people who understood how difficult living with fibromyalgia, psoriatic arthritis, psoriasis, endometriosis and its fallout, degenerative disc disease, and coccydynia is.  The difference between my life then and now is that I choose not to spend much time with those whose favorite word is CAN’T.  The more I hear that I can’t do something, the more I believe that I can’t do anything.  I may not be able to do everything the way I used to, but I CAN find new ways to do what I want.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Number Two: Seek counseling

I am not talking about joining a social media support group.  Those are okay to meet other people who “get” it, but not for truly dealing with your fears and life choices.  Nor is it fair to expect your family or spouse to be the ones to counsel you.  There are many options available for counseling depending upon your needs.

 If You Need A Crisis Hotline
The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline – 1-800-273-8255
SAMHSA (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration) – 1-800-662-4357
RAINN (Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network) – 1-800-656-4673

Lifeline Crisis Chat
Veterans Crisis Line – 1-800-273-8255 (Press Option #1)
National Domestic Violence Hotline – 1-800-799-7233
MentalHelp.net (An American Addiction Centers Resource) – 1-866-308-2184
NAMI Helpline (National Alliance on Mental Illness) – 1-800-950-6264

And for those wanting regular therapy with a licensed therapist, but either have crappy healthcare coverage or none, and have either transportation issues or are just in too much pain to travel one or more days a week, Online-Therapy.com offers therapy when and where you want it.

My readers save 20% when they enroll via my affiliate link.  Click here to check them out and enroll.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Number Three: Start envisioning your future WITH your chronic illness.

I know that you are hoping and praying for a cure. I am too…. But the reality is that our chronic illnesses are most likely going to be with us for the rest of our lives, especially for those of us over 50. If your chronic illness isn’t included in all of your future dreams and plans, your future will be filled with disappointment. Not only that you, but you will be unprepared for the hard times that await you. Sorry to sound like a Debbie downer, but living with your head in the clouds waiting for life to magically be transformed will only lead to more heartbreak.

When you envision a future that includes your chronic illness, you aren’t giving up. Instead you will grow stronger because your mind will be focused on figuring out what you will be able to do, making alternative plans, or finding a different way to do what you had originally planned for. Will things go wrong? Of course they will! Do you know anyone who hasn’t had anything go wrong in their life? I don’t! The difference is that you will be better prepared.

I know you are tough, because if you weren’t you wouldn’t be reading this blog post. If you are feeling like you are stuck in your life, take a deep breath, assess your situation, make plans to move forward, and never forget that you are a warrior!

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Weekly Recap January 14-18 2019

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Weekend recap January 14-18 2019

It was a long, wet, and painful week here in southern California! I hope this post finds you feeling the best that you possibly can despite whatever winter weather is headed your way!!  Whether you are sitting beside the fireplace or snuggled under your covers in bed, spend a few minutes catching up on any of my blog posts that you may have missed this past week.

Two Reasons You Should Try Topical CBD Products For Pain Relief
Kicking rain pain down the storm drain with PEMF therapy
Riding out the storm: How I deal with rain pain
Three ways I relieve chronic pain at Disneyland

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

How to reach your daily step goal without leaving the house

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

It’s the beginning of a new year and you’re excited about the fitness goals you set.  Then it hits you, not fear, not the urge to take a nap, or the desire to quit, but the frigid air that slapped your face when you opened your front door.  You quickly slam it shut and run to hide under your blankets. Then you ask yourself if your goals are realistic, because unless you can walk next to a space heater there is no way you will reach your daily step goal.  The good news is that although I can’t warm up your outdoor temperatures, I can give you some examples of how to reach your daily step goal without leaving your house.

*Disclosure: This post includes affiliate links. Meaning that at no additional cost to you, I receive a commission when you make a purchase through my links. The proceeds earned fund the giveaways I host in my Facebook groups.

  1. Get a treadmill

Treadmills are a great option if you have the space.  They allow you to move your body in the same manner as you would typically power walk through your neighborhood.  Some people feel safer walking on a treadmill because they know that if they wear out before their workout is done, they don’t have to figure out how the heck they are going to make it home.  Click here for a list of treadmills that will fit your home and budget.

Wagan EL2273 Mini Stepper Master Click here to view

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

2.  Steppers

Steppers are great for those who struggle with walking, but still want to move their hips.  When I first began incorporating walking into my fitness goals, I couldn’t walk for without my back muscles and tendons attacking my spine.  Until I began PEMF therapy, those muscles would not tolerate the motion of walking, so I tried a stepper.  My stepper allowed me to get in a workout without the extra pain that walking across a surface would and increased my balance.  Later after I added daily PEMF treatments to my pain management plan, I was able to begin going for walks.

This drug-free pain relief device relieves pain and inflammation like nothing any of the divas has ever tried! Click here to check it out and don’t forget that discount code DIVA will save you $55.00

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

3. Step aerobics

Ok, don’t laugh, but yes I am suggesting that you partake in step aerobics! It is a great workout that can be done in any room of not just your home, but you can also take your step and instructional DVD with you on road trips.  Depending on how light you pack, you may even fit it into your luggage when flying.

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4. Dance party

You don’t have to have little kids at home to appreciate this one, but if you do be sure to include them.  Blast your favorite music and dance, dance, dance!!! Dancing will do more than help you reach your steps, it will give you a full body workout!

5.  Home tour

Set a timer and walk around your home.

Disney Mickey Mouse Food Timer Click here to view

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

6.  Step in place

One of my favorite ways to get steps in is to step and/or jog in place while watching television, cooking, and while doing dishes.  Anytime I find myself on my feet, I start stepping.

How do you reach your daily step goal without heading outside?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Successful Failure

 

 

 

 

 

 

You might have heard the funny saying… “My goal was to lose 10 pounds this year. Only 15 to go!” Well, my goal in 2018 was to lose 65 pounds. 70 to go! So, did I fail? Yes. Sort of. No. Not really! Stay with me here…

The actual goal I put down on paper for 2018 was “continue to work on improving my mental and physical health” because I have come to learn that health encompasses so much more than the number on the scale. I succeeded in improving my health, through various triumphs and failures this year, even though the number on the scale isn’t what I wanted. I had those numbers in my head all year, though, so, yes, I’m disappointed. I miss being strong, physically capable, and agile, so that’s why those numbers will remain a part of my health goals. The shift is the focus and where power is given. The scale and those numbers do not rule over me.

I’ve had a lot of “non-scale victories” in my health journey in the last couple of years. A big one is that I’m still alive. When depression and other mental health struggles make you not want to keep living, that’s worth celebrating. I’m still here, and last year I made a commitment to myself to stay here.

By the way, I did lose a few pounds mid-year when I was doing “keto-ish”/low-carb. However, that way of eating started to have a negative impact on my overall health, and the pounds came back when I stopped. I learned from that experience, and anything that teaches you isn’t a failure. It’s simply learning what doesn’t work for you.

*Disclosure: This post includes affiliate links. Meaning that at no additional cost to you, I receive a commission when you make a purchase through my links. The proceeds earned fund the giveaways I host in my Facebook groups.

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Last year, I did all sorts of wonderful things that are good for my health like hiking, going to the ocean many times, and laughing so hard I cried. I strove to do my best in my various roles and be a positive force in the world. I put myself first… often. That’s quite hard for me, but everyone benefits when I do. Huge victory right there!! I pushed through physical and mental obstacles and setbacks in order to accomplish everyday stuff and all the extras. During fall and winter, I set daily and monthly goals for steps and not only hit but also exceeded them. I posted regularly in social media groups all year to support others in their wellness journeys. I did pool workouts regularly in the summer. So many victories all year!

Yes, I failed to achieve weight loss last year. I take responsibility for that while also giving myself grace. I’m choosing to celebrate all my big and small victories from 2018. In so many ways, I truly was healthier at the end of 2018 than I was at the beginning. That’s a big victory for me. I’m carrying this positive energy into 2019 and will continue to work on improving all aspects of my health, including weight loss. I’m a successful failure, and I’m not ashamed about that! I hope you can look back on 2018 with tough love–giving yourself kudos and grace. Happy 2019 to all my fellow “successful failures”!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Disabled Diva’s Winter Workout Challenge

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Disabled Diva’s Winter Workout Challenge

If you haven’t participated in one of my fitness challenges, you are missing out!  Everyone is eligible to participate no matter what their physical abilities may be.  The point of my challenges is not to compete against others, but to motivate and encourage everyone to move their bodies.  Although I refused to believe it several years ago, physical activity really does help reduce the pain I experience from fibromyalgia, psoriasis, degenerative disc disease, and psoriatic arthritis. Each challenge ends with prizes.  Winners are not chosen by how much they were able to do or by how did the most.  Those who participate are put into a drawing and earn entries in various ways.

*Disclosure: This post includes affiliate links. Meaning that at no additional cost to you, I receive a commission when you make a purchase through my links. The proceeds earned fund the giveaways I host in my Facebook groups.

Winter Workout Challenge

This month’s challenge is 3 weeks, 21 days long.  It begins 12:01am January 7, 2019 and ends at 11:59pm January 27, 2019.  Unlike the last three months, this challenge will also include those who aren’t counting their steps.  However, those who are counting steps and/or activity with a fitness tracker and post those results will earn extra entries for the drawing.  Don’t have a fitness tracker?  Click here to find a tracker or phone app that fits your budget.

 

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Winter Workout Rules

  1. Join The Disabled Diva’s Fitness Buddies on Facebook
  2. Declare your workout goal on the Winter Workout official post located in the announcements in the group.  Eligible goals are any amount of steps or activity minutes that you will strive to reach daily based on your current ability.  Just keep in mind that the number that you choose will remain your goal for the entire challenge.  You may join the challenge at anytime by declaring your steps on the original challenge post located in the group announcements.
  3. Beginning January 7, 2019 and ending January 27, 2019 a daily check in will be posted in the group.  It will be placed in the announcements to make it easy for you to find.  Each evening before you go to bed or by 8:00am PST the following morning you must post your results in order to earn drawing entries.
  4. How to earn entries: For those tracking steps with a tracker: You have the ability to earn three entries per day.  One entry for posting a screenshot of your tracker’s results for the day whether you reached your goal or not.  Two entries will be awarded for reaching your reaching your daily goal.  For those declaring activity (yoga, Pilates, biking, swimming, etc.) minutes: Earn one entry per day for commenting with your results on the daily check in.  If you are using a tracker to record your activity minutes, post a screenshot with your results whether or not you reached your goal for a second entry.  Earn a third if you post your tracker’s results and meet your daily goal.   Everybody who participates and uses a tracker has the opportunity to earn 63 entries. Those not using a tracker have the opportunity to earn 21 entries.

Prizes

Three winners will be drawn live in the group on Tuesday, January 29, 2019.  Each winner will be awarded a $5.00 Starbucks e-gift card and it will be delivered to the winner via email.

Don’t forget that the challenge prizes are funded by the commissions I earn from my Amazon links, other affiliate links from products that can be found in The Disabled Diva’s Product Picks , from proceeds from my book Make Pain Your Bitch: How to Dominate Your Chronic Life, and donations. Click here to do your regular shopping thru Amazon. Donations can be made through PayPal to admin@thedisableddiva.net

If you are looking for a way to relieve your chronic and/or workout pain without drugs, I invite you to check out PEMF therapy.  Click here to compare various PEMF products.  The PEMF device that I use is Oska Pulse.  Click here to discover all the different ways it has improved my chronic pain in the past two years and how it continues to improve my chronic life.  Click here to visit Oska Wellness and as always, my discount code DIVA will save you $55.00 when entered at checkout.

Click here to join the Winter Workout Challenge!

PEMF therapy with Oska Pulse has taken my pain management plan to a whole new level! Click here to see how it has improved my chronic life and click here to learn more about the device and how it may help you too! BTW My discount code DIVA will save you $55.00 when entered at checkout!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Two Things You Must Know About Planning

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Whether you have a chronic illness or not, life requires planning.  Without it all we are doing is sitting on our thumbs waiting for life to happen.  While spontaneity can be fun, it won’t help you succeed.  Speaking of succeeding, did you know that planning can help you succeed in your personal and professional life, even if you have a chronic illness like fibromyalgia or psoriatic arthritis.  To help you succeed, here are two very important things you must know about planning:

Number One: Planning can make you more reliable

This is a biggie for those of us diagnosed with a chronic disease.  Autoimmune diseases and other unpredictable illnesses are monsters that have the capability of turning the most reliable person into a complete flake.  Before becoming chronically ill, I rarely cancelled anything I committed to.  That all changed after my third chronic diagnosis.  One of the reasons I became the cancellation queen was because I was filling my calendar the way I did before becoming sick.  Another reasons is that I just said yes to everything without considering if I would have enough time or energy to actually follow through.

*Disclosure: This post includes affiliate links. Meaning that at no additional cost to you, I receive a commission when you make a purchase through my links. The proceeds earned fund the giveaways I host in my Facebook groups.

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I resolved this issue with careful planning.  It took a few years of trial and error, mainly because I still had to come to terms with the fact that living with multiple chronic illnesses would never be the same as the life I had before, but I finally found my groove.  What I mean by that is by following the advice in my eBook Make Pain Your Bitch: How to Dominate Your Chronic Life, I was able to plan with my symptoms and pain in mind.  For example, after living with my illnesses for as long as I had, I knew approximately how much time I needed to recover after a big outing.  I also knew that planning anything to close to that event would not end well.  So to ensure that I could attend, well as much as I could as we all know that most autoimmune diseases, chronic illnesses, and cancers can have a mind of their own, I blocked out a few days (more if I wasn’t feeling as well as I’d prefer) before the event and then anywhere from 2-7 days following the event to recover.  By doing this, I was able to plan smarter and could even explain to someone why I was declining their invite.

 

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Number Two: Plans change!

Yep, that’s right, our health status and pain levels aren’t the only things that can change without warning, our plans can too.  With that in mind, I always makes plans that include backup plans! I began this practice after I started blocking out dates on my calendar, because I became frustrated that my plans went up in smoke after I took the time to rest beforehand.  Sometimes my backup plans are actual plans. For example, if dinner plans with friends didn’t pan out, I have plans to still go out either by myself, with my husband or children, or someone from the original plans if anyone is still available.

 

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By allowing enough time to prepare my body for an outing and to recover from one, I also free myself to be a bit more flexible.  If something comes up I still have room in my schedule to shift the day that I was going to go out forward or backwards a day or two.

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The best part of seeing my schedule on paper is that afterwards I am able to see how much I was able to do in the past month.  This helps with future planning.  Then of course there is that exciting moment when you discover that all the time you spent planning and listening to your body results in being able to do more than you expected!

Don’t skate through 2019 hoping everything will work out.  Instead get planning and make this your best year yet!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Quit or Modify? The Choice is Yours!

 

 

 

 

 

When something becomes difficult to do, do you quit or modify how you do it?

I struggled to accept that I needed to change how I did things for the first 13 years of living with fibromyalgia, psoriatic arthritis, psoriasis, endometriosis, and coccydynia.  All I wanted to do was to go on with my life the way I had and not have to figure out a new way to live.  Let’s get real, even life without a painful chronic illness can be difficult, but throw in an incurable injury or illness and it can be enough to make anyone want to throw in the towel.  My first instinct when I would discover that I was unable to do something the way I did it before becoming chronically ill was to give up.  The sad part is that if I had prepared myself to embrace change, I wouldn’t have missed out on so much during those years.

*Disclosure: This post includes affiliate links. Meaning that at no additional cost to you, I receive a commission when you make a purchase through my links. The proceeds earned fund the giveaways I host in my Facebook groups.

 

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Quitter

I hear so many people say that they can’t do this or they had to give up that just because they couldn’t do it like they did before their illness or injury.  But when asked if they tried doing it differently, they became defensive.  They shut down by saying that we have no right to suggest anything because we don’t understand what they are going through.  My favorite excuse is that doing something differently isn’t the same.  Well, duh!!  Sorry, but seriously, I have done and said both.  How dare anyone suggest that I hadn’t given it my all before giving up, but if I were to tell the truth, they would be right.  I didn’t try hard enough and I am willing to bet that many others haven’t either.

I was a quitter.  Chronic pain had made doing everything so difficult that I couldn’t see alternative options.  Even when set in front of me, I hesitated to try them.  My illnesses had won control over my life.  Does that sound familiar? Are you instinctively saying no or dismissing new ideas because you are tired of having everything you do increase your pain level?  I refused to accept that doing things differently could be as satisfying, even though the end result would be the same.  What I didn’t realize is that by doing things differently, I would still have the same outcome in regards to the task, but I wouldn’t have had the extra pain that doing it the way I used to caused. But I was so terrified of increasing my pain, that I refused to even consider trying.

Like the gazillion posts I see daily on social media, I too was bitter and angry about having to give up doing things that I loved.  I was furious that I couldn’t exercise, go out, travel, care for my family, or work like I used to.  To avoid listening to other’s suggestions, I stopped taking their calls, answering the door, and even began taking extended social media breaks.  Yet, if I had just put my anger, resentment,  jealousy (yep, that is something many of us in the chronic community don’t want to admit, but many are or were jealous of those who can do what we used to do), and had opened my mind and ears, I might have began to realize that life can be good and be different at the same time.

Life modified

In the past 7 years I have learned that it is okay to do things differently. These lessons have made my life one that I wouldn’t trade for anything.  My hope is that it won’t take you reaching the point that I did (ready to commit suicide) to realize that change is okay.  I am not saying that you should be jumping for joy because now your chronic illnesses and pain are making you overhaul your entire life, but to not allow it to become a darkness that takes possession of your mind.

Here is a quick and far from full list of modifications that have made living with my chronic diseases easier and less painful:

  1. I began asking for help
  2. I found ways to work from home
  3. I have groceries delivered when unable to go shopping
  4. I used the mobile carts in stores when walking was painful
  5. To this day I utilize mobility aids FYI: Disneyland is just as much fun in a wheelchair or with a rollator as it is without!
  6. Do most of my shopping online (why waste energy that could be better spent at the beach or Disneyland?)
  7. Accept that my exercise goals and the form I participate in need to be flexible.
  8. Accept that exercise is not optional, but necessary!
  9. Allow my body to dictate my schedule for most days.
  10. Tried alternative and natural pain relief treatments
  11. I stopped fighting my body and began treating it like someone I loved.

There was and is nothing easy about anything I have done or currently do.  Living with one or multiple chronic illnesses is hard, but the hard work pays off!  Without modifications, I would be back where I was before, at home, alone, and in excruciating pain.  Although I would have argued this point 7 years ago, not changing how you live is the easy way. It is more painful, depressing, and aggravating, but it doesn’t require any work.  Making modifications to make living with your chronic illness and/or pain easier requires patience, persistence, and positive attitude.  Most of the modifications I made have decreased my daily pain levels as well as decreased the frequency and severity of my flares. The rest have made my life easier, which has resulted in less stress, which doesn’t increase my pain.

PEMF therapy with Oska Pulse has taken my pain management plan to a whole new level! Click here to see how it has improved my chronic life and click here to learn more about the device and how it may help you too! BTW My discount code DIVA will save you $55.00 when entered at checkout!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Are you ready to give up or are you ready to embrace the challenge of finding a new way to live?  I have some good news for you! You are not alone! While not always easy to find, especially in the chronic community, there are others who aren’t wallowing in self-pity. I invite you to join my Facebook groups that are filled with members who like you want to thrive and not just survive.  Another resource is my eBook Make Pain Your Bitch: How to Dominate Your Chronic Life.  It won’t cure you, but it will help you recognize areas of your life that require modification and challenge you to make those changes.  Click here to order your copy today.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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