Category Archives: mental-health

The Disabled Diva’s Blog Weekend Recap Feb 18-22, 2019

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Disabled Diva’s Blog Weekend Recap!

Feb 18-22, 2019

Cinematic Calisthenics: An Indoor Workout Than Anyone Can Do

Four ways I prevent leg cramps

How to have a pleasant bowel movement

The Disabled Diva’s Review of Earthley Good Night Lotion

Update on Soothing Skin Balm: It’s been four weeks since my daughter began using this balm on her eczema.  See the difference in her wrist! 

*Disclosure: This post includes affiliate links. Meaning that at no additional cost to you, I receive a commission when you make a purchase through my links. The proceeds earned fund the giveaways I host in my Facebook groups.

Weekend Recap February 4-8, 2019

 

 

 

 

 

 

Here is a rundown of this week’s articles!

Read what you missed and share what you liked!

 

 

 

 

 

Love is Stupid

In this article, Donna helps us overcome our insecurities and to recognize that we are worthy of being loved. Click here to read.

 

 

 

 

 

 

I Don’t Believe in That Disease

Have you ever had a doctor who didn’t believe in your chronic illness?  I have.  Having doctors who either didn’t believe that fibromyalgia was a real disease or that were totally uneducated in this disease put my life at risk when I was faced with an unrelated life threatening health issue.  Click here to find out what happened.

 

 

 

 

 

The Benefits of Charcoal Soap

My daughter and I have recently started washing our faces with charcoal soap.  Her for acne and eczema, and I for psoriasis and smoother, tighter skin.  Click here to find out what benefits there are to washing with charcoal soap and which brand we recommend.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Online Medical Marijuana Recommendations: Convenient or a Waste of Time?

Have you heard of doctors offering online medical marijuana recommendations?  I didn’t until last year!  Click here to learn about my experience and to see if this service is available in your area.

 

 

 

 

 

Why a Diagnosis is a Reason to Celebrate!

No one in their right mind would celebrate receiving a diagnosis of a disease that is incurable, right?! Or should they??!!!  Click here to find out why each of mine were a reason to celebrate.

 

 

 

 

 

28 Ways to Practice Self-Care

Click here for 28 ideas to help you love yourself this month!

*Disclosure: This post includes affiliate links. Meaning that at no additional cost to you, I receive a commission when you make a purchase through my links. The proceeds earned fund the giveaways I host in my Facebook groups.

PEMF therapy with Oska Pulse has taken my pain management plan to a whole new level! Click here to see how it has improved my chronic life and click here to learn more about the device and how it may help you too! BTW My discount code DIVA will save you $55.00 when entered at checkout!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Why a Diagnosis is a Reason to Celebrate!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Before receiving my first chronic illness diagnosis in 2001, I would have scoffed at the idea of celebrating anything other than hearing my doctor say that all tests came back showing nothing wrong.  However, my attitude changed quickly when one test after another showed nothing wrong when their clearly was something very wrong…….

I have celebrated each and everyone one of my diagnoses.  It wasn’t because I wanted to be sick.  Seriously, who in their right mind would want to have psoriasis, fibromyalgia, psoriatic arthritis, degenerative disc disease, coccydynia, and a belly full of adhesions (from endometriosis and surgical scarring) that to this day are attacking her bowls and bladder? Not me!

You are probably wondering why I would even contemplate celebrating a list of conditions that aren’t curable.  I have celebrated each one, because they gave me insight to what was going on in my body. Instead of knowing something was wrong, but having no clue as to if there was something I could do different to make it better or if I was making it worse was maddening.  Knowing what I was dealing with helped me move on.

*Disclosure: This post includes affiliate links. Meaning that at no additional cost to you, I receive a commission when you make a purchase through my links. The proceeds earned fund the giveaways I host in my Facebook groups.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Having a diagnosis validated my instinct.  Like when I knew there was something severely wrong going on in my belly, yet 22 surgeons either blamed it on fibromyalgia or said it was all in my head.  Click here to read about how their ignorance and refusal to listen to me put my life in danger. Every nurse and physician in the recovery area were in shock and horrified by what my surgeon had discovered during surgery, but not me.  I was smiling ear to ear, because his findings validated everything I had been saying for two years! I wanted to go to the rooftop and shout “Who’s crazy now??!!!???!!”

Without a diagnosis, friends and family believed each and everyone of those incompetent surgeons.  They would even suggest to my face that I wanted to be sick.  Living without a diagnosis is devastating, not just physically, but it has the ability to kill relationships.  Do you know how hard it is to trust those who believed the physicians over me?  To this day, there are some relationships that will never be mended.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I could research symptoms until the cows came home and still have no idea what was going on.  Having a diagnosis to research gave me insight to what my future may look like.  It helped me accept that I had to make changes to how I lived, did things, and what I expected from my life as I grew older.  A diagnosis allowed me to let go of my old life, to make modifications to how I did things, to experiment and find ways to improve my health and lower my pain.

Having a diagnosis makes talking with others a little less frustrating.  Instead of saying I don’t know what the hell is wrong with me, I had a disease to declare! Of course nobody seems to get that my diseases are not curable, but that’s another issue.  At least I had a name of an illness that they could look up to learn more if they chose.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

A diagnosis made it possible to meet others who are experiencing the same thing.  While we each have our own unique struggles, it is nice to bounce ideas off of each other and sometimes we find something that helps us all.

Do I wish I had never become chronically ill?  Of course, but I am thankful for each diagnosis, because without them I wouldn’t have been able to find a way to live with my symptoms or to reduce the pain that comes with them.

Was there a time in your life that you knew something was wrong, yet all the tests came back showing nothing wrong?  How long did it take for you to be diagnosed and what was your reaction?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

PEMF therapy with Oska Pulse has taken my pain management plan to a whole new level! Click here to see how it has improved my chronic life and click here to learn more about the device and how it may help you too! BTW My discount code DIVA will save you $55.00 when entered at checkout!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

28 Ways to Practice Self-Care

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Valentine’s day may be just a day, but I liked to love myself all month long.  Whether you are burnt out from living with one or more chronic illnesses, a workaholic, or both, here is a list of 28 ways to make some time and to do something just for YOU!!! Pick a few or do them all!

*Disclosure: This post includes affiliate links. Meaning that at no additional cost to you, I receive a commission when you make a purchase through my links. The proceeds earned fund the giveaways I host in my Facebook groups.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

1. Drink plenty of water: I know this doesn’t sound like much of a “treat”, but it is for your body! Water helps maintain balance of your body fluids, energizes muscles, and makes your skin look good!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

2. Take a bubble bath: Fill your tub, light some candles, turn on some soothing music, and relax.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

3. Call a friend: Carve out time to have a phone date with a friend. Hearing my besties voice at least once a month makes up for us not being able to hang out in person. Whether your friend lives nearby or out of state, a phone date is an easy way to make time for each other.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

4. Go stargazing: Go outside and watch the stars.  If you have the energy, get out of the city.  Go where the stars shine bright.  For fun, try to spot various constellations. Click here for a guide to help you find the constellations. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

5. Enjoy a cup of hot chocolate:  Want to know how I make my hot chocolate extra special?  I add 30mgs of CBD isolate to my cup and then I top if off with whipped cream and chocolate shavings.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

6. Spend some time in the sun:  I get that not everyone lives where it is nice enough to sit outside during the month of February, but there are still ways to soak up some sunshine.  If you can’t sit outside, try siting by a window that allows the sun to pour into your home.  Open your curtains, let light into your house. Not enough?  Click here to learn more about a heat lamp that helps to improve circulation!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

7. Start a journal: Journaling can be done in various ways.  You can use it as a way to share your life story with future generations, to release your fears or anger, to keep track of your daily wins, or to learn more about your body and behavior to possibly prevent some nasty flares.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

8. Take a nap: Yes, I know that those of you with chronic illnesses take a lot of naps.  But when was the last time you took one just because you wanted to?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

9. Warm your pajamas in the dryer for a few minutes before putting them on.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

10. Get dressed up for no reason: During the years that were spent in bed and even now with working from home, I don’t really have a reason to dress up.  Every once in a while I will put on a fancy dress just to feel good about myself, even though I have no plans to leave the house.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

11. Spend the day in your pajamas for no reason:  If you are like I was before getting my chronic pain mostly under control, you probably spend most of your days in your pajamas.  However, have you done it because you wanted to?  I find there is a huge difference in how I feel about myself when I am being forced by my illnesses to do something rather than when I choose to do the same thing.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

12. Donate items you no longer use:  I used to decorate my home with all kinds of knickknacks and trinkets.  But after chronic pain entered my life, I didn’t have the energy to keep up with dusting or cleaning all the items I had out.  Nor did I have the energy to sort through drawers or closets trying to find what I needed.  Purging my home of what I no longer used and decluttering my space simplified my life.  It takes less time and energy to clean and I no longer have to go hunting for the items I do use.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

13. Exercise:  Whether it be going for a run, walk, practicing yoga, or tai chi, do something good for your body.  There are many options for doing yoga while seated.  Click here to see if this form of exercise might work for you.  If chronic pain is preventing you from exercising or you are looking for an alternative to opioids, click her to check out a drug free pain relief option that took my pain management plan to a whole new level of awesome.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

14. Get a mani-pedi:  Make an appointment at your local salon/spa or do it yourself.  Having well manicured finger and toe nails always makes me feel better about myself.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

15. Plan a spa day:  Book yourself a day or afternoon at a spa.  Schedule a facial, massage, or both.  Can’t afford a spa day?  Invite a friend over or have one by yourself at home.  Purchase face masks, soak your feet, sip champagne, and nibble on some fruits and cheese!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

16. Read a book:  When is the last time that you made time to get lost in a book?  Re-read a favorite or dive into a new one.  Click here for my recommendation!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

17. Dance:  Turn up your favorite song and dance!!! I do this at least once a week.  It’s a great way to let go of physical stress, burn some calories, and an opportunity to just let myself go wild.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

18. Enjoy a smoothie:  It doesn’t matter if you make it yourself or pick one up from Juice it Up, treat your body and taste buds to a delicious smoothie.  Just make sure to take the time to savor and enjoy it.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

19. Binge your favorite show:  Spend a day doing nothing but binge watching your favorite show.  I prefer binge watching over viewing a series once a week.  It’s like watching a long movie! Click here to get 2 weeks of Hulu FREE!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

20. Make a memory jar:  Throughout the year, whenever I have a moment that makes me smile or jump with joy, I jot it down and place it in what I call my joy jar.  Then at the end of the year, I go through it and am once again reminded of the good in my life.  Click here to learn more about it and how to make your own.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

21. Write yourself a love letter:  It is easy to forget what we like about ourselves.  Take some time to write a letter reminding yourself of all the reasons you love you!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

22. Watch a comedy:  When I need to escape, I like to get lost in a comedy.  Sometimes laughter really is the best medicine.  Click here to see which comedy is my first choice.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

23. Make time for a hobby or try a new one:  When is the last time you enjoyed your hobby?  Maybe you gave it up or were forced to because your body wouldn’t allow you to do it anymore.  Either way, make time to resume a hobby or try something new.  Who knows, it may provide a distraction from pain.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

24.  Tidy up one corner of a room:  Fully cleaning a room is typically too much for the chronically ill. Instead, try doing a corner of one room today, then another tomorrow, and so on.  In time you will have tackled every corner without killing yourself and you will go to bed each night with a sense of accomplishment.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

25. Take a social media break:  Every once in a while I take mini social media breaks.  Sometimes it is just a day, but when I find that my social media feed is fueling my anxiety and depression I take two or more days off.  I don’t make a big deal about it, in fact I never announce it.  I just don’t open the app, post, or comment.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

26. Create an uplifting playlist:  Fill your playlist with songs that make you smile, tap your toes, dance, and sing out loud!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

27. Have a good cry:  Most people would never know this about me, but I love a good cry.  I love having the house to myself, watching a sappy movie, and just letting myself bawl like a baby.  Having an occasional cry is why I am able to be as happy as I am most days.  It is liberating to release the anger and sadness that chronic illness cause.  Can’t get time alone?  Grab a Bluetooth speaker, crank some tunes, take a long shower, and let those tears flow!!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

28. Unfollow toxic people on social media:  Stop following people who are always angry, picking fights, or are emotionally abusive.  You become what you are exposed to the most.  Instead, follow people who inspire and uplift you.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Love Every Move and Stretch You Make

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

February is the month of love! It’s a time to express your love to someone special.  A time to spoil them or give them a gift that will make them feel all warm and fuzzy inside.  But what about you? Shouldn’t you show yourself some love?  I think so and that is why I have themed my Fitness Buddy February Challenge around loving ourselves.

Think about the last time you were sick or injured……. I am assuming that exercising took a back seat to resting and healing, as it should.  If you are like me, not being able to exercise drove you bonkers and you couldn’t wait to return to your fitness routine.  What? You don’t enjoy working out?  Ok, maybe you weren’t chomping at the bit to go for a 2 mile run, but I bet you wanted to get back to your normal level of activity.

Next I want you to think about your attitude as you were gaining strength, but not just quite near where you wanted to be.  Did not being able to reach your pre-injury/sickness goals frustrate you?  Were you angry with your body?  Did having to go slower or only do half of what you wanted make you want to give up?  If so, that is what this challenge is all about.

A few of us were sick in December and a lot of our group had a tough January. One thing I noticed as people were on the upswing, was that they expressed frustration and disappointment about what they did achieve when it wasn’t what they were used to doing.  BTW, I was guilty of doing this too.  In fact, it was my own comments that drew my attention to this problem.

*Disclosure: This post includes affiliate links. Meaning that at no additional cost to you, I receive a commission when you make a purchase through my links. The proceeds earned fund the giveaways I host in my Facebook groups.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

For the month of February, my fitness buddies and I are going to get a lesson in loving every step and stretch our bodies make. Typically, participants of my challenges earn entries for the drawings by posting their results and meeting their goals….. This month I am adding an extra entry for being proud of what they were able to accomplish whether they met their goal or not.  Check out the rules below and if you are not a member already and would like to participate, click here to join The Disabled Diva’s Fitness Buddies.

Love every step and stretch you make challenge

This challenge has three phases and will last for a total of three weeks.

Week one

Feb. 4-10

Declare a daily goal. Accepted goals are daily steps or number of exercise minutes. Each evening before you go to bed or no later than 8AM PST the following morning, comment on the daily check in post with your results.  For this week and this week only, meeting your goal and just posting your results will NOT earn you an entry to the drawing and screenshots from your fitness trackers are not mandatory. The only way to earn an entry for week one is to post your results with a positive statement.  Example: “I love that my body allowed me to walk for as long as it did today” “I would like to thank my muscles for allowing me to swim for 20 minutes today”  I don’t care if you were only able to take 550 steps or stretch for 5 minutes, I want you to be thankful and to express appreciation to your body for whatever it allows you to do that week.  Each positive entry earns an entry.  Each participant has the opportunity to earn 7 entries.  The challenge ends on 2/10 at 11:59pm PST.

The drawing for week one will take place live in The Disabled Diva’s Fitness Buddies Group on 2/12.   Winner gets to choose from a $5 Starbucks or Amazon eGift card.

PEMF therapy with Oska Pulse has taken my pain management plan to a whole new level! Click here to see how it has improved my chronic life and click here to learn more about the device and how it may help you too! BTW My discount code DIVA will save you $55.00 when entered at checkout!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Week Two

Feb. 11-17

Declare your daily goal.  Do nothing if you are keeping the same goal as week one.  If you want to adjust your goal, declare your new goal on the main challenge post located in the group announcements.  Each day, comment with a positive comment and a screenshot of your fitness tracker results each evening before bed or no later than 8am PST the following morning on the designated daily check in post.  If you are not using a tracker you will only be eligible to earn 1 entry per day for your positive comment.  Those providing proof of activity with a tracker screenshot have the opportunity to earn 2 points per day,  1 for speaking positively about your results and posting your screenshot, and 1 for meeting your daily goal.

Week two ends on 2/17 at 11:59pm PST.  The drawing for week one will take place live in The Disabled Diva’s Fitness Buddies Group on 2/19. There will be 2 prizes. Winners may choose a $5 eGift card from Starbucks or Amazon.

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Week Three

Feb. 18-24

Declare your daily goal. Do nothing if you are keeping the same goal as the prior week. If you want to adjust your goal, declare your new one on the main challenge post located in the group announcements. Each day comment with a positive comment and a screenshot of your fitness tracker results each evening before bed or no later than 8am PST the following morning on the designated daily check in post. If you are not using a tracker you will be eligible to earn 1 entry per day for a positive comment about your own results. Those providing proof of activity with a tracker screenshot have the opportunity to earn 2 points per day, 1 for speaking positively about your results and posting your screenshot, and a second for meeting your daily goal.

BONUS ENTRIES All participants have the opportunity to earn bonus points for replying to other participant’s results with an encouraging comment.  For example, if five other people post their results and you reply to them with words of praise, you will earn five extra points, 1 per person you reply to, for that day.  ALL GROUP MEMBERS MAY EARN POINTS FOR THE BONUS POINTS, EVEN IF THEY DON’T POST ACTIVITY RESULTS! Bonus entries can only be earned in week three.

Week three ends on 2/24 at 11:59pm PST. The drawing for week one will take place live in The Disabled Diva’s Fitness Buddies Group on 2/26. There are three prizes for week three,  one $5 Starbucks eGift card and two $5 Amazon eGift cards.

All prizes will be delivered via email. This challenge is not affiliated with Facebook, Amazon, or Starbucks.  Prizes are purchased from affiliate commissions, book sales, and donations.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Love Yourself Enough to Schedule a Rest Day

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

When is the last time that you rested?

I am not talking about spending the day in bed because your chronic illness flared and made leaving it impossible.

What I am talking about is, when did you last choose a day to relax, give your body a break, allow yourself to chill out in front of the television for no reason other than you wanted to?

The problem with having multiple chronic illnesses, is that until I got my pain under control two years ago, all my downtime was dictated by chronic pain.  Between 2001 and 2017, fibromyalgia, psoriatic arthritis, psoriasis, endometriosis, degenerative disc disease, and coccydynia decided when I would be active or when I was able to leave the house or bed.

I felt like I had no control of the time in between.  I felt like all eyes were on me and that unless I was completely unable to leave my bed, I would be judged for not pushing myself to catch up on everything that I fell behind on while stuck in bed.

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The bad part about that way of thinking was that I wasn’t showing any love or consideration for myself.  My life became a fulltime punishment.  If I was in bed, I was being punished by my chronic illnesses.  If I was able to get out of bed, I was punished for the time when I couldn’t get out.  Over time I became bitter towards not only my family, but friends, acquaintances, and pretty much anybody who was alive.

My life completely changed in 2013. With my doctors unwilling to help me manage my chronic pain, I had to look elsewhere.  At the time I couldn’t see it, but it was actually a blessing in disguise as the route I chose was a natural and alternative one that really did change my life.  Click here to learn more about my pain management plan.  But the changes in my life were more than medicinal, I also began implementing many changes to how I lived and my attitude towards my body and chronic illnesses.  Discover what those changes were and how you can make them too in my eBook Make Pain Your Bitch: How to Dominate Your Chronic Life. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

One important change was to allow myself to take a day “off” from life. To do whatever I wanted, even if that meant doing nothing but binge shows on Netflix or Hulu all day.  I had to love myself enough to not feel like everything I did was a punishment.  A day of planned rest may not always rejuvenate me physically, but it sure does wonder for my mental state.  Rest days allow me to clear my head, to breathe, to remember that I will be of no use if I continue to run myself into the ground.

A funny thing happened after I began allowing myself to enjoy life, I fell in love with living again.  I will always be chronically ill.  Yes, my chronic pain has been well managed for the past two years and continues to be, but there are no guarantees that this will always be the case.  I don’t know what the future holds.  What I do know is that no matter what my diseases decide to throw my way, no matter what new illnesses or injuries I accrue, I will never punish myself or my body the way that I did before.

I love myself enough to schedule rest days.

Do you?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Life can be tough, but so are you!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Life with one or more chronic illnesses is tough.

Life with chronic pain is tough.

Life, whether you are chronically ill or not, is tough.

But I have news for you! You are tougher!!!!

Yes, that is right.  I know that there are times when you don’t feel tough.  I also know that there are days when you truly lack physical strength, but that doesn’t mean that you aren’t tough.

As long as you are fighting for your life, looking for ways to improve it, finding joy in every day, and not giving up, YOU ARE TOUGHER THAN YOUR ILLNESS OR CHRONIC PAIN!

I know that taking a nap may feel like your illness has won, but it isn’t true.  You win when you acknowledge that your body needs to rest.  It takes guts to do what your body demands of you, instead of forcing your body to follow your desires.  It takes immense strength to go to physical therapy, to keep trying new treatments, to change your lifestyle, to make healthier choices, and most importantly accept that all these things must be done in order for you to remain strong enough to survive.

Here are three  examples to help you build and maintain the emotional strength that is necessary for living with a chronic illness or pain.

*Disclosure: This post includes affiliate links. Meaning that at no additional cost to you, I receive a commission when you make a purchase through my links. The proceeds earned fund the giveaways I host in my Facebook groups.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Number One: Spend more time with people who lift you up and less with those who bring you down.

Those who constantly remind you of your limitations or are always bringing up your shortcomings, are only going to weaken you.  People who point out your strengths, help you find alternative ways to do things, or just cheer you on when you try something new will build your confidence.  Who are you spending most of your time talking to?

My life isn’t filled with people who understood how difficult living with fibromyalgia, psoriatic arthritis, psoriasis, endometriosis and its fallout, degenerative disc disease, and coccydynia is.  The difference between my life then and now is that I choose not to spend much time with those whose favorite word is CAN’T.  The more I hear that I can’t do something, the more I believe that I can’t do anything.  I may not be able to do everything the way I used to, but I CAN find new ways to do what I want.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Number Two: Seek counseling

I am not talking about joining a social media support group.  Those are okay to meet other people who “get” it, but not for truly dealing with your fears and life choices.  Nor is it fair to expect your family or spouse to be the ones to counsel you.  There are many options available for counseling depending upon your needs.

 If You Need A Crisis Hotline
The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline – 1-800-273-8255
SAMHSA (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration) – 1-800-662-4357
RAINN (Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network) – 1-800-656-4673

Lifeline Crisis Chat
Veterans Crisis Line – 1-800-273-8255 (Press Option #1)
National Domestic Violence Hotline – 1-800-799-7233
MentalHelp.net (An American Addiction Centers Resource) – 1-866-308-2184
NAMI Helpline (National Alliance on Mental Illness) – 1-800-950-6264

And for those wanting regular therapy with a licensed therapist, but either have crappy healthcare coverage or none, and have either transportation issues or are just in too much pain to travel one or more days a week, Online-Therapy.com offers therapy when and where you want it.

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Number Three: Start envisioning your future WITH your chronic illness.

I know that you are hoping and praying for a cure. I am too…. But the reality is that our chronic illnesses are most likely going to be with us for the rest of our lives, especially for those of us over 50. If your chronic illness isn’t included in all of your future dreams and plans, your future will be filled with disappointment. Not only that you, but you will be unprepared for the hard times that await you. Sorry to sound like a Debbie downer, but living with your head in the clouds waiting for life to magically be transformed will only lead to more heartbreak.

When you envision a future that includes your chronic illness, you aren’t giving up. Instead you will grow stronger because your mind will be focused on figuring out what you will be able to do, making alternative plans, or finding a different way to do what you had originally planned for. Will things go wrong? Of course they will! Do you know anyone who hasn’t had anything go wrong in their life? I don’t! The difference is that you will be better prepared.

I know you are tough, because if you weren’t you wouldn’t be reading this blog post. If you are feeling like you are stuck in your life, take a deep breath, assess your situation, make plans to move forward, and never forget that you are a warrior!

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