Category Archives: mental-health

Spring Clean Your Chronic Life: Scour Your Social Media Feed

spring clean your social media feed

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

It is time to apply some good old fashioned spring cleaning to our social media accounts.

Have you ever noticed a change in your emotions after scrolling through your Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter feed?

For example, maybe you were feeling down but cheered up after viewing some encouraging memes.

If happiness were the only emotional outcome of scrolling through social media, then I wouldn’t be writing this article….  Too often social media leaves people feeling depressed, anxious, unworthy, or angry.  These emotions, while normal, can and often aggravate chronic pain.

The good news is that there is a way to overcome it!  Read on!

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How Charlie’s Angels Prepared Me to Live with a Chronic Illness

Pictured Charlie's Angels. Title: How charlie's angels prepared me to live with a chronic illness

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

How Charlie’s Angels Prepared Me to Live with a Chronic Illness

I may have been born in the late 60’s, but I am a child of the 70’s!

One of my favorite television shows of the seventies was Charlie’s Angels.  Not only did I never miss an episode, the following day I would make my friends act them out with me! For those of you who are not familiar with this show, Charlie had a private detective agency and he hired three sexy women that he called angels.  The original angels were Farrah Fawcett as Jill Munroe, Kate Jackson as Sabrina Duncan, and Jaclyn Smith as Kelly Garrett.  They were badass women kicking butt and uncovering mysteries.

I wanted to be an Angel, Jill in particular because, well, hello that hair!!!!!

Little did I know that a show about beautiful, strong, and intelligent women would also give me the “know how” I would need to surviving life with not just one, but multiple chronic illnesses!

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The Disabled Diva’s Blog Weekend Recap March 4, 2019

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Disabled Diva’s Blog Weekend Recap!

March 4-8, 2019

Tears: I hold them back, until pain pushes them out

Spring Clean Your Chronic Life

Mobility Aids: Everybody uses them

What I have learned from using PEMF daily for two years!

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Spring Clean Your Chronic Life

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Think spring cleaning only involves giving your home a good cleaning?

Think again!

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Spring Clean: Spruce up your view!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

What does spring cleaning mean to you?

For some it may be a time to put away their winter gear and start pulling out their outdoor stuff.  Others may think of it as a time to go through the house and garage gathering items no longer needed or used and then donating them to charity.  Of course there is the traditional thought of spring cleaning which is to give your home a full no inch, nook, or cranny missed cleaning.

Today I am going to present you with a spring cleaning idea that you may not have thought of…….

Sprucing up your view!

Here are three views that you should consider sprucing up this spring!

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The Disabled Diva’s Blog Weekend Recap Feb 25 – March 1, 2019

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Disabled Diva’s Blog Weekend Recap!

Feb 25 – March 1, 2019

March Madness Fitness Challenge

Packing for your chronic illnesses

What Happens When I Live My Old Life

Fibro Farts

Telling me that it could be worse won’t make me feel better

One PEMF Device, Two Years, Tons of Pain Relief!

 

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Telling me that it could be worse won’t make me feel better

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

How many times have you explained your chronic illness to someone and their response was “It could be worse”?

I would be a millionaire if I had even a penny for every time I was told this.

I don’t believe that the majority of people who say this to us, do it with the intention of hurting.  I truly believe that they think they are offering words of comfort.

However, the reality is that those words, no matter what intention they were said with, cut deep into the heart of someone living with a chronic illness.  And here is why saying “It could be worse” should be avoided:

  • It makes the chronically ill person feel that their illness isn’t as important, painful, or difficult to deal with as a terminal diagnosis.
  • Those words are often misheard and translated into “Stop your whining, you can complain when you have a serious disease”

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The truth is that things could always be worse.  Even for someone receiving a terminal diagnosis, things could always be worse.

I am just as guilty as anybody else who has uttered those words. However, after being cut by them for so many years, I have come up with ways to say them without invalidating the severity of what someone is going through. For example: When the words “It could be worse” pass through my lips I follow up with…..

  • , but that doesn’t make what you are going through any less terrifying.  How are you coping?
  • , but that isn’t here nor there…. What do you need from me? How can I help you?

When followed with a validating comment and question, I am less apt to throw up walls or to emotionally shut down.  Instead, I feel safer to open up and have a discussion.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

If you have someone in your life who likes to remind you of how much worse things could be, talk to them.  Share how it makes you feel and offer alternative words for them to communicate with.  It may feel awkward at first, but the more we talk to our friends and family about what they say, the better we all get at communicating with each other.  Just remember, to talk, not yell or attack!  Not everyone will get it.  In that case, just let it go….. because seriously, there is so much more to worry about when you are fighting chronic illnesses like fibromyalgia, psoriatic arthritis, psoriasis, degenerative disc disease, and abdominal adhesions.

How do you react to hearing “It could be worse”?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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