Category Archives: mental-health

You See Her and Think……

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

You See Her and Think……

I have a serious question and I want you to answer honestly……

You see this young girl lying on a park bench, what is your first thought?

Don’t tell me what you think I want to hear or what you know would be most acceptable to be said, but tell me what your true first thought was………

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I am a fighter!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

**The aim of this site is to tell my experiences with honesty. Therefore, some blog posts may trigger an adverse reaction. If a post is beginning to upset you, I advise that you please stop reading it immediately and talk to your support team.

I am a fighter!

I have been a fighter for my entire life.  What and who I have fought has changed throughout my lifetime, but my nonetheless I continue to fight.

Not everyone understands why I fight.  In fact, some people will never know the demons I have battled and I am happy that they will never be able to comprehend the torment that I have survived.

I spent my childhood, teen years, and twenties fighting to protect myself from my abuser.  When I reached my thirties, I had finally broken the chains that had held me back for my entire life.  I thought that would be the end of my fight, that from that point on life would become easier. But I was wrong.  In fact, not only did the battle that I thought was over take on a whole new life, but I also found myself at war with multiple chronic illnesses.

I will never be grateful to my abuser.  I will never thank him for the horrendous things he has done to me or my family.  I will never consider myself lucky to have been through what I have, but I will admit that the fight I wish I had never fought is what taught me how to fight for my life after my chronic illnesses hijacked my body.

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May Fitness Buddy Challenge: May The Force Be With Us!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

MAY THE FORCE BE WITH US

Have you joined The Disabled Diva’s Fitness Buddy group on Facebook?

Current members, scroll below to read this month’s challenge rules.

If not, it is time you joined the fun!

This group is for anyone who needs a little accountability and encouragement to help them stick to their fitness goals.  You could have fibromyalgia, an autoimmune disease, arthritis, diabetes, MS, or any other chronic illness.  In fact, you don’t even need to be ill.  I needed motivation and encouragement before I was chronically ill just as much as I do now!

The group goal is to move our bodies every day.  This means in whatever form of exercise you are able to do.  If you can go for walks, that’s perfect and if not, that’s perfect too! Whether you run around the block, walk to the end of your driveway, or stretch your muscles every morning, you are welcome.

This group is not about killing yourself or triggering a flare in order to exercise your chronic body.  Instead, it is about figuring out how to incorporate physical movement into your day without having it disrupt your life.

Each month a challenge is issued.  Members earn entries to win Starbucks and Amazon eGift cards just by following a few simple rules.

Sound fun?

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Hospital Horrors Part 2: Desperate to be heard!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

In last week’s blog post Why I fear hospitals, doctors, and test results I shared some of the ways that the medical profession has failed me and in some cases almost cost me my life.  Yesterday, just a few days after posting it,  I shared how was once again mistreated and misdiagnosed. Today I am sharing how the rage that filled me and the pain that consumed me helped get the answers I needed.  There was also a little bit of luck involved, but you will have to continue reading to find out what that was……

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Hospital Horrors: Leaving in more pain than I arrived in

Hospital Horrors. I went in for pain relief and answers and left with more questions and pain

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

In last week’s blog post Why I fear hospitals, doctors, and test results I shared some of the ways that the medical profession has failed me and in some cases almost cost me my life.  Who knew when I scheduled that post that I would once again be mistreated and misdiagnosed just a few days later…..

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FINDING SATISFACTION IN WHAT CAN BE DONE

 

APRIL FITNESS CHALLENGE

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

FINDING SATISFACTION IN WHAT CAN BE DONE

Have you joined The Disabled Diva’s Fitness Buddy group on Facebook?

Current members, scroll below to read this month’s challenge rules.

If not, it is time you joined the fun!

This group is for anyone who needs a little accountability and encouragement to help them stick to their fitness goals.  You could have fibromyalgia, an autoimmune disease, arthritis, diabetes, MS, or any other chronic illness.  In fact you don’t even need to be ill.  I needed motivation and encouragement before I was chronically ill just as much as I do now!

The group goal is to move our bodies every day.  This means in whatever form of exercise you are able to do.  If you can go for walks, that’s perfect and if not, that’s perfect too! Whether you  run around the block, walk to the end of your driveway, or stretch your muscles every morning, you are welcome.

This group is not about killing yourself or triggering a flare in order to exercise your chronic body.  Instead it is about figuring out how to incorporate physical movement into your day without having it disrupt your life.

Each month a challenge is issued.  Members earn entries to win Starbucks and Amazon eGift cards just by following a few simple rules.

Sound fun?

Then check out April’s challenge!

*Disclosure: This post includes affiliate links. Meaning that at no additional cost to you, I receive a commission when you make a purchase through my links. The proceeds earned fund the giveaways I host in my Facebook groups.

April’s challenge is simple and sweet.

This month your challenge is to find satisfaction in what you are able to do.

You should be overjoyed when you exceed your daily goal.

You ought to be joyful about hitting your daily goal.

You need to be okay with falling short of your daily goal when your chronic illness decides to misbehave.

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You have to be willing to accept that an extended flare, injury, or illness may require decreasing your daily goal.

For one month you are going to go to bed each night satisfied with what you were able to physically do.

The only way to be dissatisfied would be if you didn’t make an effort.  But, I know that won’t be you!  Why, because I read your comments on the daily check in posts, I know that each and everyone of you who participates in the challenges makes an effort to do what you can no matter how cruddy you feel.  Every single one of you is a warrior!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

So here is the deal….

April’s challenge will last for four weeks.

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8-14

15-21

22-28

Step one: If you haven’t already, join the group .

Step two: See the challenge post located in the announcements and comment with “I AM IN”  to join the challenge.

Step three: Earn up to three entries daily.  Earn one entry for posting your results (this could be steps or miles walked, minutes of cardio, yoga, tai chi, Pilates, stretching, water aerobics, etc.) .  Earn a second for sharing how you feel about what your ability for that day was.  A third point is yours if you include a statement of being satisfied with what you accomplished for that day.

Each week one winner will be drawn, no later than 5 days after each challenge week ends.

Winner chooses between a $5 Starbucks or a $5 Amazon eGift card.

This month is about trying our best and being satisfied when our best isn’t as grandiose as we would like it to be.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Starbucks, Amazon, and Facebook are not affiliated with these drawings.

The Disabled Diva is not a medical professional and does not issue medical advice.  Always seek the advice of a medical professional before starting any new exercise program.

 

Spring Clean Your Chronic Life: Scour Your Social Media Feed

spring clean your social media feed

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

It is time to apply some good old fashioned spring cleaning to our social media accounts.

Have you ever noticed a change in your emotions after scrolling through your Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter feed?

For example, maybe you were feeling down but cheered up after viewing some encouraging memes.

If happiness were the only emotional outcome of scrolling through social media, then I wouldn’t be writing this article….  Too often social media leaves people feeling depressed, anxious, unworthy, or angry.  These emotions, while normal, can and often aggravate chronic pain.

The good news is that there is a way to overcome it!  Read on!

*Disclosure: I am not a medical professional. I am not issuing medical advice. Consult with your doctor before making any changes to your diet or treatments. This post contains affiliate links. Meaning that, at no additional cost to you, I earn a commission from purchases made through my links. These pennies fund the giveaway funds for my Facebook Groups.

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So what do you do when what your friends and family post on social media has a negative effect on your mental well-being?  You take control!

Here are five options for taking control of your social media feed and emotional health.

Choose wisely

Don’t scroll through your feed.  Instead only visit the pages of the people and or businesses that won’t instigate unwanted feelings.  Need a pick me up? Visit the accounts of those who often brighten your day.

Get help

As I stated earlier, it is normal to feel the feels that many social media posts invoke.  However, if you find that you are unable to let go of them, they consume your mind, or they are affecting your health, it is time to get help.  I am not saying that everyone needs to seek out therapy, but if you find yourself drawn to posts that increase the intensity of negative emotions there is a problem.

Hide

You love your Aunt Sally, but she every day she goes on a political rampage.  Her posts are angry and hostile, which leave you feeling the same after viewing them.  Guess what?  You don’t have to endure those posts!  Do yourself a favor and hide her posts from your timeline.  Facebook allows you to be friends with people, yet to also NOT follow them!

To make sure you aren’t missing anything important, you may want to pop over to her page once every blue moon to see if she has posted anything of importance.  I have assigned someone to check the pages of those who trigger extremely unpleasant emotions for me.  It doesn’t bother them and it makes my life so much better.

 

 

 

Unfriend/unfollow

If hiding their posts doesn’t work, you may have to unfriend or unfollow them.  I save this option for those who lack personal boundaries.  For example, you can post whatever you want on your page.  I have the right to not go there and see it.  But you cross a line when you continually tag me or post your vile content on my profile page.

Just because you are related to someone or are friends, it doesn’t mean that you have to be their social media buddy too.  If socializing with them online is going to send you into a panic attack, cause you to socially withdraw, increase your blood pressure, or cause you to go into a rage, let them go!!

By the way, if the people in your life are the cause of negative emotions or activities, please seek out help with a therapist.  They can help you determine which relationships can be saved and which are truly toxic.

Leave

Your last option is to leave the platform that leaves you with the most destructive of feelings and thoughts.  Having a social media account isn’t a requirement of life.  Yes, they provide an easy way to keep in touch with and to connect with our friends and family on a daily basis, but if they are creating a problem for you, let it go!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Feelings of sadness, anger, etc. are inevitable.  However, if you find that those feelings are becoming a way of life or all that you feel, there is a problem.  The answer isn’t threatening people to only post what makes you happy or to unfriend you.  The answer is first finding out if your reactions are typical, second recognizing just how much you can handle, then last but not least, taking action to protect your mental health.

With that said….. Before you decide to take a social media vacation, be sure to subscribe to my blog! I would hate for you to miss out on a blog post just because of a few rotten apples!  Click here to subscribe!

Click here to read my entire Spring Cleaning series

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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