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Life can be tough, but so are you!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Life with one or more chronic illnesses is tough.

Life with chronic pain is tough.

Life, whether you are chronically ill or not, is tough.

But I have news for you! You are tougher!!!!

Yes, that is right.  I know that there are times when you don’t feel tough.  I also know that there are days when you truly lack physical strength, but that doesn’t mean that you aren’t tough.

As long as you are fighting for your life, looking for ways to improve it, finding joy in every day, and not giving up, YOU ARE TOUGHER THAN YOUR ILLNESS OR CHRONIC PAIN!

I know that taking a nap may feel like your illness has won, but it isn’t true.  You win when you acknowledge that your body needs to rest.  It takes guts to do what your body demands of you, instead of forcing your body to follow your desires.  It takes immense strength to go to physical therapy, to keep trying new treatments, to change your lifestyle, to make healthier choices, and most importantly accept that all these things must be done in order for you to remain strong enough to survive.

Here are three  examples to help you build and maintain the emotional strength that is necessary for living with a chronic illness or pain.

*Disclosure: This post includes affiliate links. Meaning that at no additional cost to you, I receive a commission when you make a purchase through my links. The proceeds earned fund the giveaways I host in my Facebook groups.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Number One: Spend more time with people who lift you up and less with those who bring you down.

Those who constantly remind you of your limitations or are always bringing up your shortcomings, are only going to weaken you.  People who point out your strengths, help you find alternative ways to do things, or just cheer you on when you try something new will build your confidence.  Who are you spending most of your time talking to?

My life isn’t filled with people who understood how difficult living with fibromyalgia, psoriatic arthritis, psoriasis, endometriosis and its fallout, degenerative disc disease, and coccydynia is.  The difference between my life then and now is that I choose not to spend much time with those whose favorite word is CAN’T.  The more I hear that I can’t do something, the more I believe that I can’t do anything.  I may not be able to do everything the way I used to, but I CAN find new ways to do what I want.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Number Two: Seek counseling

I am not talking about joining a social media support group.  Those are okay to meet other people who “get” it, but not for truly dealing with your fears and life choices.  Nor is it fair to expect your family or spouse to be the ones to counsel you.  There are many options available for counseling depending upon your needs.

 If You Need A Crisis Hotline
The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline – 1-800-273-8255
SAMHSA (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration) – 1-800-662-4357
RAINN (Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network) – 1-800-656-4673

Lifeline Crisis Chat
Veterans Crisis Line – 1-800-273-8255 (Press Option #1)
National Domestic Violence Hotline – 1-800-799-7233
MentalHelp.net (An American Addiction Centers Resource) – 1-866-308-2184
NAMI Helpline (National Alliance on Mental Illness) – 1-800-950-6264

And for those wanting regular therapy with a licensed therapist, but either have crappy healthcare coverage or none, and have either transportation issues or are just in too much pain to travel one or more days a week, Online-Therapy.com offers therapy when and where you want it.

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Number Three: Start envisioning your future WITH your chronic illness.

I know that you are hoping and praying for a cure. I am too…. But the reality is that our chronic illnesses are most likely going to be with us for the rest of our lives, especially for those of us over 50. If your chronic illness isn’t included in all of your future dreams and plans, your future will be filled with disappointment. Not only that you, but you will be unprepared for the hard times that await you. Sorry to sound like a Debbie downer, but living with your head in the clouds waiting for life to magically be transformed will only lead to more heartbreak.

When you envision a future that includes your chronic illness, you aren’t giving up. Instead you will grow stronger because your mind will be focused on figuring out what you will be able to do, making alternative plans, or finding a different way to do what you had originally planned for. Will things go wrong? Of course they will! Do you know anyone who hasn’t had anything go wrong in their life? I don’t! The difference is that you will be better prepared.

I know you are tough, because if you weren’t you wouldn’t be reading this blog post. If you are feeling like you are stuck in your life, take a deep breath, assess your situation, make plans to move forward, and never forget that you are a warrior!

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Weekly Recap January 14-18 2019

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Weekend recap January 14-18 2019

It was a long, wet, and painful week here in southern California! I hope this post finds you feeling the best that you possibly can despite whatever winter weather is headed your way!!  Whether you are sitting beside the fireplace or snuggled under your covers in bed, spend a few minutes catching up on any of my blog posts that you may have missed this past week.

Two Reasons You Should Try Topical CBD Products For Pain Relief
Kicking rain pain down the storm drain with PEMF therapy
Riding out the storm: How I deal with rain pain
Three ways I relieve chronic pain at Disneyland

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Successful Failure

 

 

 

 

 

 

You might have heard the funny saying… “My goal was to lose 10 pounds this year. Only 15 to go!” Well, my goal in 2018 was to lose 65 pounds. 70 to go! So, did I fail? Yes. Sort of. No. Not really! Stay with me here…

The actual goal I put down on paper for 2018 was “continue to work on improving my mental and physical health” because I have come to learn that health encompasses so much more than the number on the scale. I succeeded in improving my health, through various triumphs and failures this year, even though the number on the scale isn’t what I wanted. I had those numbers in my head all year, though, so, yes, I’m disappointed. I miss being strong, physically capable, and agile, so that’s why those numbers will remain a part of my health goals. The shift is the focus and where power is given. The scale and those numbers do not rule over me.

I’ve had a lot of “non-scale victories” in my health journey in the last couple of years. A big one is that I’m still alive. When depression and other mental health struggles make you not want to keep living, that’s worth celebrating. I’m still here, and last year I made a commitment to myself to stay here.

By the way, I did lose a few pounds mid-year when I was doing “keto-ish”/low-carb. However, that way of eating started to have a negative impact on my overall health, and the pounds came back when I stopped. I learned from that experience, and anything that teaches you isn’t a failure. It’s simply learning what doesn’t work for you.

*Disclosure: This post includes affiliate links. Meaning that at no additional cost to you, I receive a commission when you make a purchase through my links. The proceeds earned fund the giveaways I host in my Facebook groups.

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Last year, I did all sorts of wonderful things that are good for my health like hiking, going to the ocean many times, and laughing so hard I cried. I strove to do my best in my various roles and be a positive force in the world. I put myself first… often. That’s quite hard for me, but everyone benefits when I do. Huge victory right there!! I pushed through physical and mental obstacles and setbacks in order to accomplish everyday stuff and all the extras. During fall and winter, I set daily and monthly goals for steps and not only hit but also exceeded them. I posted regularly in social media groups all year to support others in their wellness journeys. I did pool workouts regularly in the summer. So many victories all year!

Yes, I failed to achieve weight loss last year. I take responsibility for that while also giving myself grace. I’m choosing to celebrate all my big and small victories from 2018. In so many ways, I truly was healthier at the end of 2018 than I was at the beginning. That’s a big victory for me. I’m carrying this positive energy into 2019 and will continue to work on improving all aspects of my health, including weight loss. I’m a successful failure, and I’m not ashamed about that! I hope you can look back on 2018 with tough love–giving yourself kudos and grace. Happy 2019 to all my fellow “successful failures”!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Disabled Diva’s Winter Workout Challenge

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Disabled Diva’s Winter Workout Challenge

If you haven’t participated in one of my fitness challenges, you are missing out!  Everyone is eligible to participate no matter what their physical abilities may be.  The point of my challenges is not to compete against others, but to motivate and encourage everyone to move their bodies.  Although I refused to believe it several years ago, physical activity really does help reduce the pain I experience from fibromyalgia, psoriasis, degenerative disc disease, and psoriatic arthritis. Each challenge ends with prizes.  Winners are not chosen by how much they were able to do or by how did the most.  Those who participate are put into a drawing and earn entries in various ways.

*Disclosure: This post includes affiliate links. Meaning that at no additional cost to you, I receive a commission when you make a purchase through my links. The proceeds earned fund the giveaways I host in my Facebook groups.

Winter Workout Challenge

This month’s challenge is 3 weeks, 21 days long.  It begins 12:01am January 7, 2019 and ends at 11:59pm January 27, 2019.  Unlike the last three months, this challenge will also include those who aren’t counting their steps.  However, those who are counting steps and/or activity with a fitness tracker and post those results will earn extra entries for the drawing.  Don’t have a fitness tracker?  Click here to find a tracker or phone app that fits your budget.

 

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Winter Workout Rules

  1. Join The Disabled Diva’s Fitness Buddies on Facebook
  2. Declare your workout goal on the Winter Workout official post located in the announcements in the group.  Eligible goals are any amount of steps or activity minutes that you will strive to reach daily based on your current ability.  Just keep in mind that the number that you choose will remain your goal for the entire challenge.  You may join the challenge at anytime by declaring your steps on the original challenge post located in the group announcements.
  3. Beginning January 7, 2019 and ending January 27, 2019 a daily check in will be posted in the group.  It will be placed in the announcements to make it easy for you to find.  Each evening before you go to bed or by 8:00am PST the following morning you must post your results in order to earn drawing entries.
  4. How to earn entries: For those tracking steps with a tracker: You have the ability to earn three entries per day.  One entry for posting a screenshot of your tracker’s results for the day whether you reached your goal or not.  Two entries will be awarded for reaching your reaching your daily goal.  For those declaring activity (yoga, Pilates, biking, swimming, etc.) minutes: Earn one entry per day for commenting with your results on the daily check in.  If you are using a tracker to record your activity minutes, post a screenshot with your results whether or not you reached your goal for a second entry.  Earn a third if you post your tracker’s results and meet your daily goal.   Everybody who participates and uses a tracker has the opportunity to earn 63 entries. Those not using a tracker have the opportunity to earn 21 entries.

Prizes

Three winners will be drawn live in the group on Tuesday, January 29, 2019.  Each winner will be awarded a $5.00 Starbucks e-gift card and it will be delivered to the winner via email.

Don’t forget that the challenge prizes are funded by the commissions I earn from my Amazon links, other affiliate links from products that can be found in The Disabled Diva’s Product Picks , from proceeds from my book Make Pain Your Bitch: How to Dominate Your Chronic Life, and donations. Click here to do your regular shopping thru Amazon. Donations can be made through PayPal to admin@thedisableddiva.net

If you are looking for a way to relieve your chronic and/or workout pain without drugs, I invite you to check out PEMF therapy.  Click here to compare various PEMF products.  The PEMF device that I use is Oska Pulse.  Click here to discover all the different ways it has improved my chronic pain in the past two years and how it continues to improve my chronic life.  Click here to visit Oska Wellness and as always, my discount code DIVA will save you $55.00 when entered at checkout.

Click here to join the Winter Workout Challenge!

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Two Things You Must Know About Planning

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Whether you have a chronic illness or not, life requires planning.  Without it all we are doing is sitting on our thumbs waiting for life to happen.  While spontaneity can be fun, it won’t help you succeed.  Speaking of succeeding, did you know that planning can help you succeed in your personal and professional life, even if you have a chronic illness like fibromyalgia or psoriatic arthritis.  To help you succeed, here are two very important things you must know about planning:

Number One: Planning can make you more reliable

This is a biggie for those of us diagnosed with a chronic disease.  Autoimmune diseases and other unpredictable illnesses are monsters that have the capability of turning the most reliable person into a complete flake.  Before becoming chronically ill, I rarely cancelled anything I committed to.  That all changed after my third chronic diagnosis.  One of the reasons I became the cancellation queen was because I was filling my calendar the way I did before becoming sick.  Another reasons is that I just said yes to everything without considering if I would have enough time or energy to actually follow through.

*Disclosure: This post includes affiliate links. Meaning that at no additional cost to you, I receive a commission when you make a purchase through my links. The proceeds earned fund the giveaways I host in my Facebook groups.

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I resolved this issue with careful planning.  It took a few years of trial and error, mainly because I still had to come to terms with the fact that living with multiple chronic illnesses would never be the same as the life I had before, but I finally found my groove.  What I mean by that is by following the advice in my eBook Make Pain Your Bitch: How to Dominate Your Chronic Life, I was able to plan with my symptoms and pain in mind.  For example, after living with my illnesses for as long as I had, I knew approximately how much time I needed to recover after a big outing.  I also knew that planning anything to close to that event would not end well.  So to ensure that I could attend, well as much as I could as we all know that most autoimmune diseases, chronic illnesses, and cancers can have a mind of their own, I blocked out a few days (more if I wasn’t feeling as well as I’d prefer) before the event and then anywhere from 2-7 days following the event to recover.  By doing this, I was able to plan smarter and could even explain to someone why I was declining their invite.

 

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Number Two: Plans change!

Yep, that’s right, our health status and pain levels aren’t the only things that can change without warning, our plans can too.  With that in mind, I always makes plans that include backup plans! I began this practice after I started blocking out dates on my calendar, because I became frustrated that my plans went up in smoke after I took the time to rest beforehand.  Sometimes my backup plans are actual plans. For example, if dinner plans with friends didn’t pan out, I have plans to still go out either by myself, with my husband or children, or someone from the original plans if anyone is still available.

 

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By allowing enough time to prepare my body for an outing and to recover from one, I also free myself to be a bit more flexible.  If something comes up I still have room in my schedule to shift the day that I was going to go out forward or backwards a day or two.

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The best part of seeing my schedule on paper is that afterwards I am able to see how much I was able to do in the past month.  This helps with future planning.  Then of course there is that exciting moment when you discover that all the time you spent planning and listening to your body results in being able to do more than you expected!

Don’t skate through 2019 hoping everything will work out.  Instead get planning and make this your best year yet!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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