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Why I fear doctors, hospitals, and test results

Why I fear doctors, hospitals, and test results

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Why I fear doctors, hospitals, and test results

Since my first chronic illness diagnosis in 2001, my life, that is my chronic life, has been nothing short of a nightmare.

I know my body well.  In fact, I know better than any test or doctor.  Not to sound conceited, but not one test or scan has ever shown the destruction that has been taking place in my abdomen since 2003.  NOT ONE!! However, my theories have been validated in surgery and each surgery was proved necessary.

Before you suggest that my fears aren’t warranted, I need for you to understand something…… I do not have White Coat Syndrome, where patients experience a higher blood pressure reading when at the doctor’s office, it goes way beyond that.  My fears and phobias stem from incompetent care.  Not from just one doctor or surgeon, I am talking double digits!!!

In case that is not enough of an explanation, here is a list of some of the reasons I fear doctors, hospitals, and test results……

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How to plan the best summer vacation despite your chronic illness

How to plan the best summer vacation despite your chronic illness

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Does the thought of taking a summer vacation get you excited or does it send chills down your spine?  I loved traveling before I became chronically ill.  In addition to yearly Disneyland vacations, I loved exploring new areas in other states or within the ones that I lived in.  Weekend road trips without a destination were my favorites.

Soon after chronic pain became a part of my daily life I began to loathe traveling. It wasn’t that I didn’t want to go exploring, instead it became too painful. Not only did my excursions increase my pain while away, it would take weeks and sometimes months to recover from them once I returned home. Not wanting to spend most of my time recovering I opted to stop traveling.

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Keeping My Chronic Illnesses Happy While Fighting an Infection

Keeping my chronic illnesses happy while fighting an infection

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Keeping My Chronic Illnesses Happy While Fighting an Infection

If you are like me, every illness and injury that you experience comes with a side dish of unwanted flares from your chronic illnesses.  That has been my story for as long as I can remember… Until now….

For the first time in my entire chronic life, I have been able to keep my chronic illnesses from completely freaking out while I am recovering from an infection that is unrelated to fibromyalgia, psoriatic arthritis, psoriasis, degenerative disc disease, and abdominal adhesions.

How can this be?

In today’s very short post I am sharing how I am doing it…..

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Listen and obey

If I have learned anything about my body and living with multiple chronic illnesses, it is that I have to listen to my body’s demands.

If it wants to sleep, I sleep.  To help me sleep comfortably, not just for the moment, but to wake up with less pain I use a foam wedge, neck, full body, and knee pillow.  When using the full body pillow, I use the knee pillow for my ankles.  I literally hurts to have any part of my legs or feet to touch each other when I sleep, especially when I am running a fever.

Lying in bed for extended periods of time increases pain in my sacrum and spine.  To avoid any unnecessary pain, I run PEMF treatments on those areas with my Oska Pulse.

When fighting an illness outside of my chronic ones, I throw my regular schedule out the window.  I do not force myself to do more than I can handle, before I am ready to do it.

Stay ahead of the game

Besides allowing my body the rest and sleep that it requires, I make sure to address pain issues before they become a problem.

Dehydration only makes the situation worse, so I force myself to drink plenty of water.

To help keep my muscles relaxed I use Good Night Lotion on my legs and feet.  I alternate between  BioCBD+ topical oil and Earthley’s Arnica Salve to relieve pain from my temples down to my toes.

When I have the energy, I take a bath with hemp bath bombs for extra comfort.

To stay ahead of nausea, I vape my favorite cannabis strains with my new dry herb vaporizer (review coming soon).

The most important thing I do is to not stress out about the time my body needs to heal.  Stress is a huge trigger for most of my chronic illnesses.  By remaining calm and accepting that my life isn’t going to fall apart in the days my body needs to heal, I prevent further complications from the symptoms that stress triggers.

I may not have gotten ahead on the projects that I had hoped to over the past few days, but I have caught up on The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, General Hospital, and Coronation Street.  I watch them all on HULU where I never have to worry about setting a DVR and am able to watch my favorite shows without commercials.  Click here if you want to try HULU for FREE for two weeks.

With each passing day I can feel myself getting better and stronger…

In the meantime, how do you keep your chronic illnesses calm while healing from an infection or injury?

 

 

 

HOW TO SPOT SOMEONE WITH A CHRONIC ILLNESS

HOW TO SPOT SOMEONE WITH A CHRONIC ILLNESS

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

HOW TO SPOT SOMEONE WITH A CHRONIC ILLNESS

Grab your binoculars, looking glasses, and detective kits, because today I am going to share how to spot someone who has a chronic illness!

Make sure you a have a pen and notepad ready to take notes, because what I am about to share will help you spot one of these mythical creatures with your own eyes!!

Are you ready to begin your chronic illness manhunt?

Then let’s get started……

Just kidding!

If you haven’t figured it out by now, I am just yanking your chain.

There is NO way to spot a person with a chronic illness without getting to know them.

I am sure you have heard the phrase “You don’t look sick”.

Those of us who ARE chronically ill despise this phrase.  Not because we don’t like looking well, but because that phrase is often used to downplay the severity of our disease.

Look at the picture below………

 

do I look sick?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

This was taken at 9:30AM on March 17, 2019.

Do I look sick?

NO.

Yes, I am overweight and maybe appear a little tired, but for the most part there is no way, from just looking at that picture, to determine what chronic illnesses I have and which are flaring.

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What you don’t see

Here is what you don’t see:

  • A spider web of abdominal adhesions pulling and twisting the internal organs I have left.
  • What feels like my intestines being tied into a knot
  • The vomit I am forcing to keep down
  • Nausea
  • Contractions
  • Psoriasis that is breaking out on the areas of my body that are most stressed at the moment.
  • My Oska Pulse, under my shirt, reducing the amount of abdominal pain I must endure because of adhesions caused by years of endometriosis, surgical scarring, and pain from surgical errors.

 

What isn’t bothering me

This is what people assume is bothering me when I say I am having a rough day. These conditions that practically crippled me after 12 years are well managed. They do not and have not been a major issue in the past two years, yet that is the assumption the minute I share that I am struggling.

  • Psoriatic arthritis
  • Fibromyalgia
  • Degenerative disc disease
  • Coccydynia

The chronic pain that these chronic illnesses produced were why I spent so much of the first twelve years of my chronic life in bed.  They are why I couldn’t walk, stand, or sit for more than five minutes.  Thankfully I have an amazing pain management plan that addresses the pain and symptoms from these illnesses, making them minor issues compared to what is going on inside my abdomen.

What I choose to hide

  • Fear.
  • Fear of incurring more internal damage
  • Fear of living the rest of my life with pain that just can’t be explained
  • Fear of dying
  • Fear of never enjoying the freedom that a reprieve from all of my chronic illnesses allowed me to enjoy last year.

What to look for

There may not be an easy way to spot someone one with a chronic illness, but there a few signs.

  • Cancelling of plans: Yes, life happens, but if you notice that it is happening more often than not, it may be the result of a chronic illness.
  • Inability to hold back tears.  While many of us, the chronically ill, have developed a thick skin and don’t always wear our emotions on our sleeves, I for one can’t hold back tears when my pain is out of control or I am just plum exhausted from fighting it.
  • Manic behavior, such as wanting to do as much as possible in a short period of time because they fear not having much time left do to fear of life ending or pain returning.
  • Withdrawing from life.  Some people slowly pull away from their friends and family.

The signs won’t be the same from one person to the next.  We all handle our chronic illnesses differently.  How we handle the emotional ramifications will also change throughout the years as our diseases either go into remission or progress.

Don’t judge us by how we look….

Looks are deceiving….

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

HOW TO SPOT SOMEONE WITH A CHRONIC ILLNESS

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The Disabled Diva’s Weekly Recap March 11-15, 2019

The Disabled Diva's Weekly Recap March 11-15 Pictured, sunglasses on green grass next to a dandelion.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Weekly Recap March 11-15, 2019

Chronic Life: Does the waiting ever end?

How Charlie’s Angels Prepared Me to Live with a Chronic Illness

The Disabled Diva’s Top Ten Travel Tips

Spring Clean Your Chronic Life: Disinfect Your Diet

Are your spring break vacation expectations realistic?

Spring Clean: Spruce up your view!

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Ending soon!

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Chronic Life: Does the waiting ever end?

 

chronic life does the waiting ever end

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Does the waiting ever end?

Living with one or multiple chronic illnesses involves a LOT of waiting.  We wait for doctor appointments, test results, pain relief, cures, diagnoses, people to understand, and so much more….  But does it ever end?  There is no simple answer for this question.

My chronic illnesses which include but are not limited to, fibromyalgia, psoriatic arthritis, psoriasis, degenerative disc disease, abdominal adhesions (from endometriosis and surgical scarring), and coccydynia, have all forced waiting periods into my life when I would have rather not been sitting around waiting.  The problem with all the waiting that has to be done is that waiting then becomes a way of life.  However, as I discovered after the first 12 years after my first diagnosis, there are some things that we shouldn’t be waiting for, like living.

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What are you waiting for?

My early chronic years were spent waiting for answers, test results, and most of all pain relief.  Even though I heard my doctor say “There isn’t a cure, but we can treat the symptoms”, I wasn’t able to accept that I would never be 100% pain free.  I kept waiting for that unattainable dream of waking up without pain and being able to do whatever I wanted.

Although I had no choice but to wait for test results, to recover from surgeries, and for treatments to begin to working, my life was meant to be lived.  Waiting to live caused me to miss out on a lot.  I missed out on many opportunities to grow as an individual, to spend with others, to make memories with my family, and so much more.

In my eBook Make Pain Your Bitch: How to Dominate Your Chronic Life, I share how to live a good life despite your chronic illnesses.  My life didn’t change overnight, it took time, patience, and hard work to create a life that I am passionate about.  Nor did I wait until my pain level became manageable, no I began carving out my new life while flat on my ass in one of the darkest periods of my chronic life.

Chronic pain or any new twists or turns that my chronic illnesses want to take will never hold me back again.  Why? Because I won’t let them.  If my body won’t let me do things one way, I will find another.  If I have learned one thing throughout 20 years of living with my chronic illnesses it is that life should never be put on hold, no matter what I am waiting for.

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Why are you waiting?

I vividly remember the day in 2013 when I realized that I had been waiting to live.  That I had done nothing with my life since my symptoms began disrupting it.  That, when you think about it, I had lost over a decade of my life.  The heartbreaking part was that I was also raising children who were watching me wait.  Existing was the last thing I wanted my kids to do.

When I realized that I had been waiting to live, I had to ask myself why I did it.  The answer came easily, I was waiting to be healed, even though I knew that would never happen.  Why did I wait so long for something I knew would never occur?  Because, being healed would make what I wanted to do so much easier…….  Friends, that hit me like a ton of bricks….. I wanted life to be easy.

Life isn’t easy for anyone, even those who aren’t chronically ill have their challenges.  Reaching my goals would never be easy or pain free, but instead they would require a lot of hard work and sacrifice.

Take a chance, don’t let the unknown diagnosis or unexpected flare stop you from creating a life that is filled with passion and purpose.

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What can be done while waiting?

I will be the first to confess that it is extremely difficult to think about the future while waiting on a medical test result or diagnosis.  If you are like me, your mind goes to all the worst case scenarios and not one of them includes a future you can bare to think about.  But we can’t allow the unknown to control our destiny.

Instead of continuing to allow my life to abruptly come to a halt, I began looking at alternative ways to make my dreams come true.  If a particular diagnosis is going to dictate that I can’t do something the way I have, I begin looking for other ways to continue what I am doing.  For example, working from bed doesn’t mean that I am working less than if I traveled to an office every day.  Nor does using a mobility aid make spending the day at Disneyland any less special than when I am on foot.

Currently, I am experiencing a flare up from abdominal adhesions.  Thankfully, my pain management plan is keeping pain from my other chronic illnesses under control, because combined my pain level would be off the charts.  However, the abdominal pain I am experiencing is forcing me to do things a little differently.  Here is how I continue to live while waiting for relief…..

  • I accept assistance
  • Allow for a flexible schedule
  • Use mobility aids
  • Cancel or turn down anything that will derail me from what most needs my attention and energy
  • Practice patience with myself and body
  • Listen to my body and give it what it demands
  • Breathe: I allow myself to enjoy small moments and to be okay with living differently than my friends and family.
  • I forgive myself for not being the perfect, pain free, super woman I wish I were.

What are you currently waiting for? Why and what can you do in the meantime?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Chronic life Does the waiting ever end

How Charlie’s Angels Prepared Me to Live with a Chronic Illness

Pictured Charlie's Angels. Title: How charlie's angels prepared me to live with a chronic illness

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

How Charlie’s Angels Prepared Me to Live with a Chronic Illness

I may have been born in the late 60’s, but I am a child of the 70’s!

One of my favorite television shows of the seventies was Charlie’s Angels.  Not only did I never miss an episode, the following day I would make my friends act them out with me! For those of you who are not familiar with this show, Charlie had a private detective agency and he hired three sexy women that he called angels.  The original angels were Farrah Fawcett as Jill Munroe, Kate Jackson as Sabrina Duncan, and Jaclyn Smith as Kelly Garrett.  They were badass women kicking butt and uncovering mysteries.

I wanted to be an Angel, Jill in particular because, well, hello that hair!!!!!

Little did I know that a show about beautiful, strong, and intelligent women would also give me the “know how” I would need to surviving life with not just one, but multiple chronic illnesses!

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Look for clues

When I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia, psoriatic arthritis, psoriasis, degenerative disc disease, coccydynia, and endometriosis, I had no clue that each chronic illness would lead to a life of searching….

Searching for what you ask? What not would be easier to answer, but whether you have one chronic illness or a slew of them, the life of the chronically ill is spent searching for ways to relieve pain, new symptoms, reoccurrence of old symptoms, side-effects, and treatments. The chronically ill spend a lot of time investigating their bodies, the fluids that come out of them, their mental status, abilities and disabilities.

Thankfully Charlie’s Angels taught me to never give up and that there is always an explanation.  My doctors may have given up, but I will never give up searching for the source of my chronic illnesses.

Trust my instincts

Like any good detective, I have learned to trust my instincts.  I received my first chronic illness diagnosis in 2001 and since then I have had countless tests come back and show nothing wrong when I went in with a complaint of pain.  Thanks to my Angel training I knew not to accept that answer and kept pushing the issue and presenting new clues to my doctors.  In several cases, tests showed absolutely nothing wrong with me, but surgeries revealed the truth.  The findings of each surgery proved and validated my complaints by being something that no test could have ever revealed.

Trusting my instincts has saved my life countless times and will until I am no longer able to speak for myself.  I can never stress enough how important it is to be your own advocate!

Know when to fight

Like a well trained private eye, I know how to protect myself.  While I may not be punching or handcuffing my enemies, I have to fight to receive the care I deserve and need.  I have learned when fighting a doctor about a diagnosis or test is worth my time or not.  Sometimes my energy is better spent finding a new physician.

I have also learned to listen to my body.  It will let me know if the situation is urgent or if it can wait a little longer.  This instinct also helps me get through life.  I have learned what levels of pain and exhaustion can be pushed through and what cannot.

Teamwork works

Living alone, void of any assistance from others when you have a chronic illness is possible, but it’s not realistic.  Whether you are married or not, it is best to have a team.

First you need a medical team that is working together and not against each other.  They and you, need to be on the same page about treatment of the disease and pain.

Then you need your personal team.  You need someone that you can confide in, because trust me there are going to be days when you just need to vent your fears without terrifying your spouse/partner.  My husband is a fantastic team member that I don’t ever want to be without.  He has witnessed the horrific treatment from surgeons and has been there for me at the absolute worst moments of my illnesses.  Other teammates that are beneficial are folks to help with transportation, provide an occasional meal, or to tidy up your home when you are at your worst.   No matter what, you need someone in your life to make you laugh, because without laughter we are only left with sorrow.

Be sure to train one or more of your team to be your patient advocate.  You may not always be alert enough to express your requests or needs.  Having someone who can speak for you when you are unable is invaluable!!!

Thanks to the skills I learned from Charlie’s Angels, I continue to fight pain, solve symptom mysteries, and refuse to give up!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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