Goodbye dear friend


My sweet friend’s battle with cancer ended last night.  Today she is dancing in heaven without pain or worry.  Pam was a fighter.  From the beginning she defied every time limit that her doctors gave her.  Most notably was the one given approximately two months ago.  At that time her doctors told her family she would die within one to seven days! The time in between has been a gift, for me and most importantly her family.  During this time those that loved her came together to help make her dream of renewing her vows with her husband come true, we laughed and cried with her.  But the gift was more than that, existing friendships were strengthened and new friendships were made.  Some of us also discovered new talents or strengths.  Some cleaned, some cooked, some sang, and some just held her hand, but we all had one common goal, and that was to make Pam as comfortable as possible and to make this time easier on her husband and children.

As for me, I will cherish every moment that I was able to spend with her, including having the opportunity to say my final goodbye on her last day.  I have much to remember Pam by.  Every time I watch House Hunters, I will remember her and I guessing which house the couple will pick.  Every time I am at a park I will remember all the years that we spent with our kids and homeschool group.

It is my hope that everyone remembers that every day is a gift.  Don’t live your life waiting to be healed and make the most of the life you have.  Pam reminded me to cherish my good days and not to waste them.  Do not let the fear of additional pain keep you from creating memories with your loved ones.

Wishing you a day filled with gentle hugs,

The Disabled Diva


Published by Cynthia Covert

Diagnosed in 2001 with psoriasis, followed by fibromyalgia, psoriatic arthritis, endometriosis, and later a botched hysterectomy turned her world upside down. Cynthia shares her experience, advice, and tips for how to make life with chronic pain easier and less painful.

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