Out of all the Disney Princesses, Cinderella is the one that I relate to the most. We were both abused. Yet neither of us ever complained or told anyone else. Instead we sang songs that made our hearts feel lighter. Not that I condone not speaking up, because I do believe that people should reach out for help, but in my case, and I am assuming it was similar for Cinderella, I feared the unknown of what would have happened had I spoke up, over the abuse itself, because at the very least the abuse was familiar. We used our creativity to make a terrible situation easier to deal with. Neither of us let our abusers know just how much they had hurt us. Instead we always treated them with respect and greeted them with a smile. When Cinderella did breakdown, she was alone. Or so she thought until her Fairy Godmother made herself visible. I rarely breakdown in front of others, I prefer to cry alone. But like Cinderella, I was and am never really alone because God is always there with me.
Cinderella and I both fell in love with our Prince Charming at first site. Both of our abusers tried to keep our true loves from taking us away. Thankfully we both had our fairytale weddings and were whisked off and away from our abusers. And this is why I chose “A dream is a wish your heart makes” and “So this is Love” as my husband and I ‘s first dances. And lastly we are both living happily ever after with our Prince.
So as you can see overall Cinderella is my alter ego. She is me and I am her. The funny thing is that I have been called Cinderella by many through the years. If they only knew just how spot on they were!!! So Cinderella will always be my favorite princess and my inner princess, but there are other princesses that I feel a kinship with. One of those is The Little Mermaid, Ariel.
My bond with Ariel didn’t come about until a few years ago. It took living many years in pain to truly get where she was coming from. I get how she felt trapped in the water. Living in pain confines me to my house more often than I would like to be home. Don’t get me wrong, I love my home, it just that it becomes a very lonely place when I am unable to join my family for outings. Like Ariel, I want to be where the people are! It doesn’t matter how hard I flip my fins, they will only get me so far.
I also understand why she turned to Ursula in a desperate attempt to be where the people were. I too have come close to making a deal with the devil, just so I could be “normal”. Thankfully I was able to come to terms with my conditions and situation and was able to see that life is what you make it to be, not what someone else will do to make it for you.
This leads me to the latest Princess that I have found myself bonding with, Tiana.
Tiana knows that only with hard work and persistence will her dreams come true. Like Tiana, I refuse to give up on my dreams. Does life always follow my plan? Nope. Even when life tries to push me down and attempts to make me believe that I will never succeed, I refuse to give up. Tiana never expected anyone to make her dreams come true. She knew that it was up to her. Just like Tiana, I am almost there.
Which princess do you find yourself to be most like and why? Stay tuned because next week I will be sharing which male characters, animals, and villains I most relate to!!
Hope your day is filled with Pixie Dust, gentle hugs and smiles!
The Disabled Diva
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