There is no such thing as a simple cold.

For those of us that live with chronic pain and illnesses, there is no such thing as a simple cold.  A so called simple cold will knock me down like the flu knocks down an average person.  This is just one reason why I am such a freak about germs. When in a room full of people, I do not wish to touch or be touched.  There are those who choose to make fun of me by pointing out that I am exposed to the germs of thousands of people every time I go to to Disneyland.  Yes they are correct, but the difference is that I am not touching them and they are not touching me.  I rarely touch the safety bars on the rides and I always carry hand sanitizer with me.  I can honestly say that I have yet to catch a cold from a day at Disneyland.  But it never fails whether it be a small or large group setting, if I shake hands or hug someone that has even the slightest illness then I am guaranteed to catch it.

So what is the big deal?  I mean it is just a simple cold right?  Wrong!!  Because my body is already compromised a simple cold can feel like the flu.  Others say, “just rest, and enjoy the downtime”.  Obviously these people have no idea how much time I spend giving my body the rest it needs on a daily basis.  This is where my frustration lies.  I only function at approx 50% of an average person’s capability for a few days per month.  I live from one flare to another. The last thing I want is to lose more days just because someone couldn’t keep their germs to themselves.  Don’t risk the health of someone like me with a hug if you are showing signs of even the slightest sickness.  I  feel truly loved and cared about when people are upfront that they may have a cold.  Even if you believe your symptoms are just from allergies, hold back the hug or handshake, I would rather not take a chance.

I know many feel that touching and hugging others is their way of showing love and affection.  Just know that when it your hugs and handshakes come with a dose of sickly germs I begin to see you as my enemy more than my friend.  Just to be clear, for me it is not that I can’t be around you, I just can’t touch you.  Each cold that I have had in the past so many years can all be traced to touching someone who had what they thought was a simple cold.

So this flu and cold season remember that hugs are only nice when they are not accompanied with icky sicky germs!

Gentle hugs,

The Disabled Diva



Published by Cynthia Covert

Diagnosed in 2001 with psoriasis, followed by fibromyalgia, psoriatic arthritis, endometriosis, and later a botched hysterectomy turned her world upside down. Cynthia shares her experience, advice, and tips for how to make life with chronic pain easier and less painful.

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